The Art of a Good Apology

Mistakes. Letting something get the best of us. Lapse of good judgment. Insensitivity. Potty mouthing.

Of course, an authentic apology can go a long way towards making amends. But unless we get these three pieces just right, we’re likely to destroy any chances we had of repairing the relationship.

1. Apologize first, but Do NOT say I'm sorry. Here's what I mean - I'm sorry suggests that you're acknowledging that you're a sorry human being, and that's definitely not the truth. When we say 'I apologize' there's a different force behind it. We're recognizing that we made a mistake are are taking responsibility for it, which leads to point #2....
2. Take 100% responsibility AND apologize first every time. Ugh, yes I do mean it (and I can hear you saying "WTF! Ashley", already). I'm not saying it's the truth that you are always 100% responsible; but it's a powerful way to be in a situation where there's an upset. Why is it powerful? Because you're being that you're more committed to kindness and love than being right and in control. Our society has a thing with being right and, in my experience, it doesn't really get us what we want in the end. Also, when one person disarms and takes responsibility first, I've noticed that it's easier and more likely the other person will do the same. Consider this situation is an opportunity for both parties to grow & that it's teaching everyone something.
3. Accept that you cannot change, fix, or heal the other person. Only they can do that for themselves. What you have the power to do is to change yourself and the choices you make.